Rejection and Self Belief

I have had a few rejections recently (not unusual for a writer). I feel like most of them I’ve shrugged off no problem but this most recent one has stung a bit probably because I was holding out hope for it.

I’m finding it hard to believe in myself (part of my goal) when I feel like the world keeps telling me I’m not good enough. I know that this is probably the challenge I need to overcome believing in myself when no one else does/without any proof. I also hate that I need this external validation. I have tried so hard to detach myself from it but I still feel like I need something to prove to the world that I have some value.

When I joined the Flow Collective I was struggling with procrastinating from writing. Now I write most days which is great but I still don’t feel like I’m getting anywhere with my writing. I’m putting in all this time and effort but my results = a load of rejection are still the same. Is the problem that I feel like I need to get somewhere with it? I feel really blocked in this area of my life.

 

Answer:

Have you celebrated the transition from procrastination to writing most days! That’s a huge change!

Let’s examine what you want from your writing. What does ‘getting somewhere with it’ mean to you? Why do you write? Wanting external validation is very human – when we have it, our brains interpret that as belonging and safety in community. One thing to get curious about is who you really need and want that external validation from and why. It’s okay to want and need it, and it does matter who you want and need it from. When you explore this, what emerges?