Relationship and stuckness

Just listened to most recent relationship coaching podcast

I relate in lots of parts to the first story of dynamics in a relationship and my partner finishing her degree

I think I relate to the feeling of stuckness, of feeling like we can’t move onto the next phase of relationship (eg living together) until after she is finished with her degree
I think I’ve realised I’m projecting my own stuckness a bit onto this fact, as even when she has graduated she has said she wants to save etc – her graduation wouldn’t equal next phase

I think it’s easier to think of her situation that my own – i have my own feelings of not knowing where my future is with my work or where I want to live – I think I should focus on this what I would want regardless of her and then think how those can correlate

In many ways I do want the next phase eg when she will be earning money and we could live together – but I suppose that is a good thing, and it definitely isn’t about me her progress through the degree
(And there is lots to celebrate and love about this phase too, there is no need to rush!)

 

 

Answer:

 

It sounds like your awareness of the worries you have about your romantic relationship with your partner is bringing up some awareness of where you feel stuck in your own life and how you might be projecting that onto your relationship.

What does moving into the next phase of your relationship mean for you, and why is it a problem that it might not happen until after she earns her degree? Do a thought download. There are no wrong answers – this is just an exploration of your brain. What pops out for you? Why? Come back to us and we’ll continue coaching on this.