Relationship dilemma: being faithful

Hello coaches! Thanks in advance for your help here.
I have been in a relationship for 13 years and in the past 9 months I have had some interactions with another man. We met three times for sex and there is a lot of sexual tension when we see each other. I value my relationship and my partner has everything I want in a relationship. The only but is I want more sex with him (now it’s like once or twice a month) but he is not as sex driven as I am. He was before and I appreciate after so many years things change but my needs are not satisfied and this is not good either.
I would never leave my partern and I don’t want to be in a relationship with this man, nor does he.
When I think about the gravity of my actions, I’m shocked about what I did and want to do again. At the same time I crave this man’s attention and the sex we have. I want more sex in my life, I want to feel desidered and this is not satisfied in my relationship.
From one side, I would like to be coached on how to do the right thing (stop having sex this man), as this is wrong for my relationship and it is taking away my sense of peace. I spend too much time thinking about the situation, craving that attention. So it is becoming negative for myself as well.
From the other side, I want to satisfy my needs.
Thank you

Answer:

I wonder if there’s a balance that we could strike here, and let me know how this lands for you. You want to figure out a way to get your needs met without jeopardizing your relationship.

If we were to put that in the R line, what would the rest of the model look like? Try starting at the A line – what would you be doing or not doing to create this result for yourself? Next try out the F then the S lines. How about the T line last? Do a thought download here.

C: Sex
T:
F:
S:
A: What would you do and not do?
R: Meeting my sexual needs without jeopardizing my relationship with my partner

Relationships go through hard phases – just like everything in life. You can always give yourself the chance to do what is right for you and your partner and lead with Love.