Relationship thought errors 2

Thank you for this coaching and opportunity to explore here.
My thought download:
Relationships don’t have to be work.
Connections can be made easily.
Disconnections don’t have to be permanent, like a service interruption on a phone call.
Relationships can be easy.
Connections don’t have to be deep and exposing.
Connections can be temporary.
I’m good at temporary.
I change my mind a lot.
It’s OK if a relationship ends.
I can connect with anyone or anything.
I’m good at identifying something I like.
I trust my intuition.
I’m not as vulnerable as I once was.
I want to be more open to connections.
I enjoy trying new things.
There are different types of relationships.
As I grow and change, so do my relationships.
I can allow things to flow.

When I frame relationships in the realm of possibility, I can see how my thoughts about them being temporary shift towards positive.
As far as interrupters, I think acknowledging that my negative thought loop, or thought errors are based on past experiences would be helpful. Saying, “The past is behind me! I’m setting out on new adventures and have no idea what magic the future holds.” I envisioned giving myself a hug as a reminder that I’m always in relationship with, and connected to myself, or stretching/reaching my arms up over my head, like reaching for new heights or the stars.
I found some old journals and had a good laugh at myself, twenty years younger, questioning my relationship patterns and longing for a better connection with myself. I’m celebrating the insight that I had for all these years and that I have been making progress all along the way. I do wish that I could have listened to my intuition more, and put myself first sooner, but look at me now. *gives myself a hug* With all of my continuing curiosity, I believe the 20 years from now version of myself will be just as magnificent.

 

 

Answer:

Beautiful work. Try on these thoughts. See how they feel. See what results they create for you and what the experience is like. As you’ve already noticed, this is all a process and a journey, not a destination. Even when you find a partner, the growth never stops. We still get to look at our patterns and how they affect our life every day. We still get to learn to listen to ourselves more.

I especially love your idea that relationships can be easy. How can you lean into that even more? What shifts would you see in your energy if you truly believed this?