Resting during the holidays

This Christmas I am spending 5 day ish over Christmas with my bf and his mum at her place. I am looking forward to it AND have concerns about getting some me time in.

They are not huge fans of Christmas, and I must admit it’s lost a bit of its sparkle to me over the years.

They do not like planning things (I do) and they both seem to feel like they must be doing or achieving at all times. I find this exhausting to see other people do to themselves but that’s their choice I know.

I am concerned about if I choose to spend some time by myself that it will be seen as rude. My bf seems to take things personally and I can imagine him saying that I don’t want to spend time with them, which isn’t true.

I don’t want the worry of how Christmas will be to spoil my experience of it. I know and accept it will be different this year, but I worry about not enjoying it because of it being different.

 

 

Answer:

Worrying is using your imagination to be uncomfortable now in the hopes of avoiding being uncomfortable in the future. There’s nothing wrong with this, unless you don’t want to do it anymore. Instead, you could use your imagination to create the results you want so that today feels better and you have a much better chance of Christmas feeling the way you want it to.

Try this: Imagine yourself at a New Year’s party or gathering and someone close to you asks “How was your Christmas?” what do you want to be able to say in full honesty? How would you describe it? What memories did you make? What was the most fun? What was not as fun? Christmas with family is never going to be perfect, but what if you embraced the 50/50 of life and imagined who you want to be.

Now just take the story and write down some sentences that will help you create it.

What do you think?