Resting vs. Indulging in not taking action

Hi lovely coaches!

I am coming at you with something I have been sitting with for the past few weeks.
This autumn/winter season I committed to slow the heck down, take in all the witchy/cozy/Christmasy vibes and have been savoring time at home, reading, cooking and not doing much.
I have seen the benefit on my mental health (= less pressure to perform in these short and dark winter days) and have given myself plenty of space to doze off, watch romcoms and be on the sofa. I have also experienced very little premenstrual tension and pain in the last two cycles, which is great news!
But, but, but.
A sneaky thought has infiltrated my cozy bubble. Here it is: “I am indulging in this so I don’t have to take action”.
I feel a sense of guilt when I entertain this thought. I associate this indulging mostly with not feeling like working out much these months and being ok with it because I know autumn and winter are slower seasons.
I have been trying to find the boundary between “this is genuine rest” and “this is my brain resisting the idea of making effort”. But I feel stuck.
The result I would like to create is a place where I can take plenty of rest but I do have a routine in which I move my body in ways that feel good and aligned with the season. Clearly though, “it’s good for me” is not a motivating thought at the moment.
I’d love to have your guidance on where I could direct my self-coaching next!
Thank you in advance xx

 

 

Answer:

You just get to decide how you define what you’re doing. It’s your story. I would offer that you pick the one that best serves you.

Your circumstance is your actions, and you get to decide what you think about it. like

C: I laid on the sofa for 2.77 hours watching romcoms on Dec 17,2022

T: what do you want to think about it?

When you think: I am savoring this, what does the rest of your model look like?

When you think: I am indulging, what does the rest of your model look like?

Which one gives you a result you like?

It’s so interesting how our brains resist change so much…even change with obvious benefits! Thank your dear brain for trying to help, but remember you don’t have to believe everything you think!

How does that sound? You may enjoy watching or rewatching the Doing Less Webinar as you relax this season.