Sad about my age

Hi coaches
I feel sad about my age and constantly wish I was 10 years younger. A mum at school today had her birthday and was moaning that she’s 34 and I’m 10 years older than that.
I feel sad that my body is ageing, that I didn’t appreciate my body when I was younger and what I can now see looking back was my beauty. I feel embarrassed about saying my age, especially around those younger than me.

I am planning on entering a fitness competition with a friend from the gym and we have to enter an age group that’s a halfway split between our ages. I’m convinced she’s at least 10 years younger than me even though we have kids the same age. And I feel too awkward to bring it up. People often think I’m younger than I am, so I don’t mention my age.

I’m aware there must be so many thought errors in here, but I wanted to acknowledge that all these things are existing in my brain and causing me a lot of sadness and regret.

I would love to get coached on this and learn to embrace my age.

 

 

Answer:

It might be helpful to start by understanding why you don’t embrace your age yet. What messages did you get through your life about aging? What messages did you get about being younger? This could be from people close to you, society in general, or some defining moments in your life. What physical factors are at play? Being 44 can bring up many questions. Be kind as you explore. I would offer that there are no thought errors here, just a human who is figuring some things out.