Self doubt in meetings -2

Thankyou that’s really useful feedback and has given me more insight.

I think there’s probably a big elephant that needs eating, and which is presenting itself in a lot of areas of my life. I’m just not sure where to start.

“When you love yourself and are confident, everything else will fall into place”

I think I like myself, and I enjoy being in my own company, but I wouldn’t say that I love myself and can be really critical of my actions at times.

The T of “ I belong here” is what I would like to achieve- again in a lot of areas- home life, work life, in my social group, but I often question whether I’m really good enough to belong.

Is there some really basic things that I could work on to start achieving this Thought as I think it is exactly what I would want.

I’m really proud of a big win I’ve recently had and am celebrating this and maybe doing more of this will help.

I’m hoping to find ways of achieving thoughts of belonging without the sense of overwhelm that I have when looking at my elephant to eat!

 

Answer:

 

One bite at a time, right!? What happens for you when you think of naming one reason you belong somewhere, including low stakes areas? Here’s a low stakes practice example: When you go to the grocery store, why do you belong there? Can you extend this sort of practice to home life, work life or social situations?

Another way to do this is bridge thoughts…bridge thoughts help us complete the gap between where we are and where we want to be. They start like this…

I’m becoming a person who…
It’s possible…
Maybe…
I wonder…
I’m learning…

What feels most accessible for you? Create a few thoughts about belonging that you suspect (or know) will get you closer to your goal and notice what it’s like for you to do that. Bring anything that comes up back to us.