Self love in a very challenging autumn

Hello. I’m on day 22 of my first cycle since a complicated pregnancy loss, and I’m struggling with my partner and child. I found myself shouting at them, being bossy, snappy and even thinking I’d be better of not having a family at all , but not saying it out loud and feeling guilty to have thoughts like that. I’ve just watched the self love course and realise I’ve got very little love towards myself in autumn if at all. As a result, I’m doing far too much in the household to tell myself I ‘accomplish’ things, end up exhausted and shout at partner and child. Any help on where to start to get out of this vicious circle would be so appreciated

 

Answer:

So much great awareness that opens up the possibility for change.

When you are feeling less love for yourself in Autumn, your energy is probably down. So why do you feel that you need to accomplish things and do more?

It makes sense if you are fighting the signals from your body, that you will end up feeling exhausted. You are doing more when your body is signaling to slow down. When we are exhausted, it is much more difficult to process our feelings. So it makes sense that you may shout more as you react to how you are feeling.

What would it look like to use your self-awareness to have some compassion for yourself when you are in autumn? What choices would you make then? Sometimes it helps to consider what would you tell a friend who described an autumn like yours to you.

Lastly, if you have not done so already, it may be useful for you to watch the Harness Your Hormones class in the Bonuses section. Specifically, module 3 about supporting your cycle.