Setbacks

Hi Maisie and Coaches,

How can I gracefully respond to set backs?

I recently had to return to canada because of a delay with my visa.

I don’t know how long it will be until I can leave again. But coming back has put me face to face with the situation I left to be free from.

I feel disconnected from my goals and vision of my life. I did everything I knew at the time to approach coming back and still it rocked me to my core. I’m not blaming myself and I’m open to making this as easeful of a transition time as possible.

But, I’m feeling a lot of grief about it. I want to be brave and fight hard for my goals and hold strong to the vision. Are there some practices I can do to reconnect with my goals and vision again and let this setback be something Im proud to have navigated my way back from?

 

Answer:

Let yourself feel the grief. You have complete permission. What are you grieving? What does it feel like in your body? Write your experience down. Get it out of your head and out on to paper. Let it be messy. Graceful may be overrated, what do you think?

Check in and see if you are adding another layer of suffering on top of your grief. This is the part where we fight reality. The part where we woulda/coulda/shoulda ourselves. The part where we are angry at government bureaucracy. The part where we think we’ll be happier in the future when the visa comes through. How much energy are you spending fighting reality? How are you showing up?

Think about your goals.  Who are they pushing you to become? How can this extra time in Canada be an opportunity to continue becoming who you want to be?