Setting standards for friendships pt. 2

*What do you think is the problem you want help with here? It sounds like you made some decisions based on your values and you took the action you wanted in order to create a result. What wins do you notice in this process?
What else are you feeling now? What is like feeling rattled? What is it telling you? How can we support you?*

Thanks for your questions. What came up is a lot of discomfort with emotions related to the decisions. While I feel that they are right, that does not save me from the disappointment, anger and pain of losing two friends. I now realize that I was hoping for guidance to take off this emotional edge. It feels hard to lose people I thought would be great companions, like a mini-breakup. I guess I just have to process these emotions.
Last week, I spend two days with an old friend who lives in another country, but she came over to visit. We had such an enjoyable time and both cherished our connection and each other, sharing and celebrating our wins and struggles from the bottom of our hearts. That was not only amazing, given the recent struggles with friends it was liberating! This is exactly the quality I´m looking for in good friendships. This experience really helped to keep trusting in myself and in my standards, which come from an honest and kind place.

Answer:

Isn’t it so fun when the Universe brings us just what we need? We love that for you. Such good insights that you gained from being in connection with a friend.  Looking back on these two days, what were you thinking? What were you not thinking? What made it easy? What energy did you notice?

You’re right on about the uncomfortable feelings. It makes total sense that you’d want relief from them. True freedom comes when you can understand and allow all the parts of being a human. What helps you process? What support do you need? There’s no rush.