Speaking up and out = panic state and self hatred – Part 4

Hi coach thank you

Ok new c line could be: I wrote words in the neighbourhood group chat

And yes i think it is a good summary to say “it comes down to your brain running away with you when you have a sense that something isn’t clear or answered completely.”

“When you start to notice that you feel uncomfortable, and worried and begin down the path of the What It Could Be’s, what is it signaling to you about what you might need to give yourself at that moment?” — my go to is the runaway feels, which shows here: In the moment, A break from thinking about it! Stopping the obsessive loops or spirals. Disconnection from the topic.

“How can you offer yourself some compassion in that space?” —— hear the discomfort and feelings, feel them, let them be, dont try jump to solutionising and creating stories for them …

Thanks coach!

 

 

Answer:

 

Yes – the first step is always to validate your experience and meet and accept yourself where you are. How do you stop thinking about it and disconnect from the topic? Consider what actions would help you create that result and create an easy model that you can reach for when you notice yourself wanting to run away so you don’t have to do it in the moment.

What comes up for you when you create the model for yourself? Notice any thoughts and feelings or reactions that arise for you and bring it back to continue working on this!