Spring Goal – feedback on structure

Hi, it’s been a while since I’ve been to Ask A Coach!

The Spring Goal workshop was really helpful, and I noticed that the goals that came up during Maisie’s questioning all seemed to be revolving around the same theme. I decided that it might be better to make this theme into a bigger goal, and make some of the goals that came up my rocks.

I haven’t exactly narrowed down the exact wording of the goal but it’s mostly around getting out of my comfort zone/putting myself out there but I’d welcome some suggestions in rephrasing this as I tend to view these phrases with a bit of a negative connotation.

My rocks so far are:
1. Go to a single’s event – happy to say I have already completed this one!
2. Sign up for a dinner with strangers – this is something I’ve done before but wanted to repeat as it gets me into the habit of meeting people
3. ???

I’m struggling a bit with the third rock as some of the other goals that came up are ‘bigger’ things such as writing a novel or taking a long solo trip, and I wanted to make this goal fun and aligned with my word for the year which is ‘enjoyment’. I have some ideas of ‘smaller’ things which would be a bit more in-keeping with the other rocks but I’m a bit paralysed with indecision on which one to choose.

I’m also not entirely sure what success would look like with this goal, so it all feels a bit too floaty and undefined for me at the moment. Any feedback would be welcome!

Answer:

Welcome back! Here’s the thing about goals in TFC, we believe that what you choose is less important than making the choice itself, and understanding how you accomplish what you set out to do. Try checking in with yourself – closing your eyes, feeling your body sensations, and noticing the emotions that come up around this goal. What if you chose writing the novel this time around? Notice the emotions that arise around that when you consider it. If your word of the year is enjoyment, what’s one goal that aligns with that word? Remember, the actual choice is less important than the process of how you pursue it – it’s all about the practice of pursuit and learning about yourself on the way.