sticking with things

I am not sure whether it’s always been there but lately I have had an aversion to going deeper into learning things. Instead of working on progressing in the language I have already reached B2 in, I want to start a new one. Instead of writing my thesis on a topic I have experience in, I want to start something new. Instead of restarting piano lessons, I bought a guitar. I have always liked variety whether it be school or food as long as my life broadly sticks to a routine. I am just very unsure if I should keep on indulging the impulse. Not many jobs allow for vastly different projects each month and I also long for the feeling of mastery or having “a thing”. I am just not sure if this is a case of accepting who I am and rolling with it or to find a way to override the urge of starting new things. And if so how to do it in a way that doesn’t feel restrictive or like I am punishing myself. I have tried to identify things I have stuck to like my major, my routines, my hairstyle. Maybe it is ok that I am experimenting in some areas? Maybe I haven’t found a language I truly want to master yet and need to keep looking? Or do I just want to avoid the tedious work of buckling down, revising and such? How do I trust my impulses to do what’s best for me? Any input on how to self coach on this would be really appreciated.

 

 

Answer:

 

Sometimes looking into other areas of your life is helpful when it comes to answering questions you have about how to change a pattern. Let’s look at your routines, for example. Why do you stick to them? What’s the benefit for you? What would be the consequence if you were to stop sticking to them? Investigating why what you’re doing in this area is working can reveal some avenues that you might be able to connect to changing this pattern you’ve identified.

Next, let’s investigate why you want this. Why do you want to have mastery in something? What would it mean for you? In what ways is it a problem for you that you are trying different things right now? In what ways is it beneficial for you to try new things right now? Bring your answers back to us and let’s keep coaching on this.