Struggling to go to the office

Hello,
In my company, we have a remote policy. I have a nice working setup at home and I mostly work from home.
But, I’d like to go more frequently to the company office. I have mostly been going there once a month.
At home, it is convenient cause I get to have breaks and work from the couch when I’m tired, which is very often.
But I struggle to be productive at home for the whole day. So, I end up with several hours of debt per week. And of course, I feel bad about it.

I have another office option to go to, which is near my place. A relative rents it and I can use it.
So, when I want to work outside of the home, at the beginning of the day, I’m on this thought loop of going to the office near home or going to the company’s office.
Which makes me very stressed.
This conversation in my brain will happen between 10 am to 12 pm. It can be 11:30 and I still haven’t left home.

Reasons that I don’t want to go to the company’s office.
I am too late now to arrive there. (it takes 34 mins)
My colleagues are going to see me that I arrived late. I’ll look unprofessional and not serious in my work habits.
I don’t want to see my manager. My colleagues will have expectations for me.
I don’t feel comfortable working in the office having other people around me who know my work, and what I’m supposed to be doing or what I was supposed to have done by now.
I’m so comfortable at home.
Oh, I feel very tired now and I don’t want to go.
Oh, my shoulders will get stiffed from carrying the backpack.
I don’t belong with them, my colleagues. -> This is a topic coming up recently also with my friends.

Reasons to go to the office
I’ll meet my colleagues. I’ll be feeling more connected to them, and I’ll have more motivation to do my job.
They will see me and get reminded of me, so they don’t forget me.
I’ll be in a different and nice environment. I will get some sun, exercise and see nice parts of the city.

How can I get I navigate this thought chaos? And this feeling of failing to go to the office / leaving home.

Looking forward to your guidance and questions.

 

Answer:

 

The number one thing that will help you make decisions and stick to them are your reasons behind what you do and don’t want. What can you get behind to fully have your own back for either going or not going? Can you imagine being fully committed to either going or staying? What would that be like? What would you have to do to create that for yourself? What would you have to think about this decision to feel the way you’d need to feel in order to take the action you need to take? For example…

C: Decision to go to the office
T: I fully have my back on this choice.
F:
A:
R: Make a decision that I feel incredible about.

Secondly, if you were to lower the bar a little bit for yourself and be imperfect about how you show up, what would that look like? For example, if the dream is to be in the office one day a week, the low bar might be 2 days a month. How can you make a 1% difference in your trajectory as you pursue this goal? Bring your answers, and what comes up for you back for more coaching and let’s keep exploring this!