Stuck and Overwhelmed

Dear Coach,
Hope you are well and having a good day 🙂
I have been wanting from a far (as Maisie puts it) to turn my creative hobbies into a fantastic business for a year and a half but I find when I go to do the work I stall, get stuck, feel nervous and scared to do it.
I have been healing from grief and stress of caring for my mum and dad as my dad was dying over 3 years. Since he passed (Xmas 2021) I have been processing the grief and loss in my mind and body.
I feel like I am at a place now where most of my grief has been processed as my buffering (mostly scrolling online and eating too much) has subsided a lot and I’m gaining back energy. I wonder why then I am stalling as I really want to have my own business, be creative all the time, be my own boss, choose my own hours, work with upcycling to do my bit for the planet and get paid loads for my work (I loved Serena’s guest webinar!).
It rang true for me what Maisie said to another member about them feeling like, as an artist I need to struggle / not get paid well / can’t make a career out of my creative work. I had that thought in my head too and have been working on it / processing it since, that it is just a thought. I have been open and thinking that I can do it, feeling positive about it but still I freeze/get scared when I go to do the work.
I think there is self worth, fear of failure and overwhelm all wrapped up in it.
Please help me with this.
Thank you 🙂

 

 

Answer:

You’re stalling because it’s easy. Your brain is used to the familiar discomfort of not going for your dreams. It’s safe. It likes it.

Taking action to do something different is always scary. Instead of thinking it means you should think about it lionger, see it as a sign that it’s exactly what you should do.

Do it scared.

If you were willing to start before you were ready, what would be the first step you need to take towards starting your business? Something that moves the needle. Something that makes you want to vomit a little. Pick it and choose a date you’ll complete it by. Bring it to the community if you want some accountability. Just get going! Thank you so much, my day is always good when I get to give Flow-ers a little kick to get them moving.  🙂