Summer goal

Hi!

I have not met my summer goal. Simply because I never really decided on one.
A lot of things came up for me when I listed to the summer loving workshop. The question of what I wanted to happen put me in a bit of a panic state.

I immediately pictured what I wanted in five years, ten years one year. And I could feel that I really wanted these things. The biggest ones is that I wanted a partner/relationship and the other ones were about having a good career, being respected and so on.

I struggle to make a goal out of these wants. Especially the want of a partner (and that is the biggest one) because it feels so out of my control. I feel like I have to make myself better and that it will be impossible to achieve.

So for goals I started to work on career goals instead. The goal was “making space for my creativity”, but I kind of haven’t thought about it so much. And I have been in this brain fog where I just say to my self that I’ll think about it later.

If you could give me some pointers to make sense of this. That would be great!
Thanks:)

 

Answer:

You are worthy of love just as you are, right now. You don’t have to do anything to get better. You’re right, in many ways we don’t have control of other people, but we do have control of ourselves. There are many results that are dependent on other people, for example if I want to make $50 selling lemonade, that requires customers. I don’t control the people but I can find a great locations, make the best lemonade, tell everyone on social media, and most importantly believe in myself. When I do that, success is inevitable.

If a partner is something you want, you can absolutely create that. Where I would offer for you to start is doing the work to love yourself exactly where you are. Make a list of the things you currently think you need to improve. Then go next to each one and write “and I love me, anyway.” For example:

I have been in this brain fog where I just say to my self that I’ll think about it later, and I love me anyway.

I have not met my summer goal. Simply because I never really decided on one, and I love me anyway.

Self love and self confidence is the work of this life. You don’t need to be perfect at it yet. Honor the desire you have within you and use it to take one next step towards loving yourself.

See what comes up for you and bring your questions and models back to ask a coach.