Summer Goals and Rocks pt. 2

When I obtain master’s degree as my short-term goal, I want to feel accomplished, ready to dive into the next stage of my life. I want to feel proud of myself and relieved. What I want to know about myself and my process along the way is, if I am able to be less perfectionistic about my thesis. Is my process facilitating perfectionism? I think it does. I haven’t set deadlines or made schedules for myself, because in the past, I was not able to stick to them, always spending much more time than was scheduled. However, not working with deadlines or schedules means I can work on one chapter for example, for as long (or as short) as I want, which also results in too much time spent working on the thesis.
As the perfectionism is the obstacle to attaining my goal, I think the rock should be: changing my work-process in a way that reduces my perfectionism.

However, I am not clear on what change(s) I can make in my work-process that will help reduce my perfectionism. I have tried all sorts of methods and tips for studying with ADD, from studying with a friend, setting alarms to remind me to stop with the perfectionism, the pomodoro-method, breaking tasks into tinier tasks, etc. I can’t seem to stop (researching, perfecting paragraphs, elaborating) when hyperfocus sets in.

Answer:

Such great awareness and questions here, especially the question, “Am I able to be less perfectionistic about my my thesis?” What’s the answer to this question? Something I am picking up on is a resistance to the perfectionist part of you. I’d dare to say that being a perfectionist has served you in some ways in the past, but that’s no longer the case. I wonder what would happen to your work process if you met your perfectionistic tendencies with love and acceptance instead of trying to push them away when you notice that you’re becoming hyper-focused? What comes up for you when you consider this question? Lastly, if you haven’t already, please watch Maisie’s video “Doing Less” in the Bonus Courses. This will have some very helpful tips for you.