Summer Seasonal Goal 2024

Hi Coaches,
I have just crafted my summer seasonal goal. I am happy with it but have the tendency to go heavy/big. I would like some feedback on how I could make it even lighter, or any feedback you have generally. Thanks.
My word of the year is Nourish and
My seasonal goal for summer is to “playfully ramp up self-love”
I have been letting that settle throughout July and it feels right and comfortable
I like my reasons for this goal: which are wanting to bring Lightness and joy and less rigidness, it feels spacious, and I feel like I have found fun ways to do it.
These are my rocks:
Rock: (play), making space and time for childlike wonder and games. Fun for the sake of having fun.
– like learning and playing magic cards
– Going to events for simply enjoying them
– Swimming in the lake
– Being silly
– Morning dances in the living room
– Seeking out laughter
– Reading a book I enjoy (fantasy)
Rock: playfully celebrating my wins publicly
– Creating a whatsapp group to share wins in
– Post in the community for wins im proud of
– Telling friends of my achievements (outside of trying to find a job)
– Telling myself loudly that I look good
Rock: playfully interrupting critical thoughts and offering some light self love affirmations
– collecting and naming negative believes and critical thoughts
– Start with one ladder thought model
– Playing around with some affirmations to see which land with me
– Writing down some self loving thoughts whenever they come up
Support Rock: writing a weekly plan in line with my cycle, noting down my weekly wins, Practising meditation throughout the week, listening to flow collective calls
What will help?
– taking off the pressure and leaning into the playful aspect of this goal. No courses, no tangible goals
– Keep working towards finding a job but holding the inner critic in bounds
What holds me back?
– My perfectionist and ambitious tendencies that tend to push me forward hard
– An inner critic that tells me I haven’t done enough
– My inner critic that believes I don’t deserve to have rest and fun when I haven’t achieved other things first
How do I know if I achieved the goal?
– I will have consciously prioritiised fun and games and sought it out
– I will have played magic a few times
– I will have read a good fantasy book
– I will have practised celebrating myself without perfectionist pressures
– I will have playfully connected with other flow collective members
– I will have a first ladder thought model
– I will have a couple affirmations that I enjoy using and that come easily
– I will have noticed the inner critic and actively reminded myself that there is no rush
Problems that could come up?
– I am still unemployed and during the summer there are less jobs and no interviews, this is something that my inner critic likes to blame on myself and wants me to work harder, and doesn’t allow fun or rest
– There is a course I am doing and my inner critic constantly tells me I should be doing more
– There is a tendency to critic myself for not doing enough towards any goal and beating myself up about it
– There is a risk that I will pile on the fun stuff of a lot of hard work, overstretching myself and not being able to actually enjoy myself
How could I tackle these
– remind myself that this is a “playful” goal
– Remind myself that the pressure is off for summer to perform and find a job at all costs
– Actively block out time for play
– Offer compassion and affirmations for when the inner critic runs away with me
– Offer compassion if i add too many things
– congratulate myself when i fail, because it means, i tried…

 

 

Answer:

What if you changed you “but” to an “and?”
I am happy with it AND have the tendency to go heavy/big.  So, what? What’s wrong with heavy/big? In what ways are you judging yourself? In what ways is it easier to judge and question your goal rather than just going all in on it?
Do you like your goal? How can this moment of committing to your summer goal be another step towards ramping up your self love? You, just as you are. You worthy and beautiful human who wants to play even when they don’t have a job. Who said you can’t do that? This is your one wild and precious life. What do you want to do with this season? Go do it.