Supporting my child (friend is self harming)

Son got msg from friend saying they were self harming – he immediately went over (asking me to go too). We stayed a while and got her to tell her parents what had been happening.
Found out he knew for a few weeks this had been going on and am concerned he is trying to look after a number of his friends and support them – he is 15.
I am struggling to process as no further information/ detail as to what is happening next to support her – appreciate giving family space and privacy but also mama bear coming out to protect my son
Help needed t process and also to think through approach with son

 

 

Answer:

What do you need to protect your son from? It would be helpful to journal and let out all the things you are afraid of right now. If you don’t, it’s just a big, scary dark cloud that you can’t really address.

Once you can see what you’re afraid of you can shine a light on it and get curious about it.  You can question your thoughts and look at them from all angles. You don’t need to know everything that is happening with your son’s friends to feel better, all you need to do is work on your thoughts about your son and yourself. What do you believe about his ability to handle this? What do you want to do to support him? What kind of parent do you want to be? When you show up confident instead of scared or worried, it changes the energy around these teenagers who are doing their best to be humans with undeveloped brains.

See what comes up and bring back any models or questions you have.