Thoughts about boss

Hi coaches. I’d love some help regards my boss. I want to stay in this job at least for another year and I like my reasons. I want help managing my mind regarding my boss. I’ve done lots of coaching on it which helps for awhile then something happens and I’m upset all over again and leave work feeling frustrated and powerless. I’m a teacher and like my colleagues, timetable, salary and lovely students. I don’t like my boss’s way of managing and strongly disagree with lots of his opinions that come up in the staff room.
C boss
T I have to put up with him
F upset
A dread talking to him for long periods, talk negatively about him to my boyfriend, think about him with frustration
R think about him a lot making the ‘putting up with him’ time way longer than necessary

C boss shares opinions (non work related)
T he is so wrong!!
F angry
A get frustrated, sweat, don’t concentrate on my work, share my points, use a high voice, try to get him to see my point
R I’m pissed off

C conversation with boss
T he doesn’t listen
F frustrated
A converse but get hotter as I go, get flustered, disconnect and answer less, give up trying to say my point, try to leave
R leave work/the situation frustrated

 

 

Answer:

Question the thought “I have to put up with him.”  Is that true? You have millions of options in front of you. When we give power over our life to others it breeds resentment. Resentment is always a red flag that we aren’t owning our choices.

Explore all the options you have in your work. Make a big list if you want. Open up and write down everything you could do in this situation.

You’ve already listed many reasons you choose to stay in your job. Why else do you work there with this boss?

Take ownership of your reasons and your choices. Life is 50/50 and that goes for jobs as well.  I would offer that you don’t need to stop being upset with your boss. It’s possible to not agree with him and still find peace at work if that’s what you want.  What could that look like?

See what comes up and bring back your questions and models.