Thoughts/Feelings About Work Part 6

Thank you for your previous coaching. A lot of what I wrote in Part 5 keeps coming up so I won’t repeat it, but I would love some more coaching on what I previously wrote.

But I have gone back through it also and tried to highlight Thoughts, Feelings, Actions and Results in order to break it down more.

Actions: Montages of different lives in the future + looking back on the past / Compare myself to others – either those I went to Uni with or people I don’t even know / Believe I need to have a certain job, dress a certain way, have a certain house because of comparison

Thoughts: I’m too afraid to try / Is my current job or another job really right for me? / I don’t believe this cycle will end

Feelings: Trapped / Dissatisfied / Unsuccessful

These are deeper thoughts I’d love to explore more:
I’ve gone from one thing to another in the hope it’ll bring success and security and ended up in a place I don’t really want to be, but I know there’s goodness here. And should I risk moving on just because it’s not where I set out to be?
I feel like I’ve been chasing safety for the past few years and I guess believing the job I was hoping to have wasn’t going to happen so I retreated into anything that gave me safety (mostly financial) and going for something because it’s what I thought I should do without thinking of the wider plan —— This I still want to investigate, but I guess an argument against this is I need to take one step before I can take another. But in argument to that, if I had’ve pursued one thing rather than hop, skip and jumping between professions that I would know and se the plan as a whole and wouldn’t think that thought.

Why does it feel like a bad thing to have a vision for your life? Because I don’t always understand reality and what is/isn’t actually possible in terms of reality and financially, so I guess I feel naive. I guess some of my vision has come from watching other people’s successes; it’s that comparison element again.

What feels like the biggest obstacle to you getting from where you are to where you want to be? Money, most definitely. And, most probably, belief.

 

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It sounds like fear of the unknown is behind the wheel, but I could be wrong. What does your gut tell you? I’m not saying dive into the deep dark water – finances matter, certainly. What I am wondering is what kind of emotional quality do you want to be making this decision from. If you could choose, what emotion would be steering the ship?

My next question is when you say you’re chasing success, what does that mean to you?