Time Of Transition Pt. 4

I feel calm and hopeful. Also think that I can go through a hard time without burning myself out (which happened multiple times in the past). Because I’m learning to make decisions in the calm state of my nervous system, taking care of myself no matter what and being my own best friend.

About the perfect apartment I don’t have anymore, I coached myself to list all the things that worked and didn;’t work in the process of trying to get that apartment last year march and realized some communication issues with my boyfriend. I am working on addressing them so the “apartment incident” showed many things to work on both on myself and in my relationship.
I also listed all the things I learned though getting my own place. Some of which are: improved my French bc i Had to speak to the agencies, realized the importance of having a good income because it limited my flat options os much and I had to take help from mom. Now I made a plan of getting a high-paying job after my PhD, getting a stable position so that getting a citizenship is easier and then buying a property no not worry about my flat situation when I’m in France. I still find it hard to pass the perfect apartment because I feel regret and also yearning fro the times I used to live there and the first year I met my bf. I bring my thoughts back to being grateful for having lived in that place, for our amazing connection with my bf and all the things I learned in the process.

Do you have any tips on how to really focus on the good stuff that came out of the “incident”?

Answer:

What if it was all good? Is that possible? Is it possible that nothing went wrong, even if it felt hard or downright bad? If not, why not? Approach this from curiosity and let us know what you think and experience when you consider this.