To burn or nog to burn

Hey coaches,
I’m trying to decide whether to go to a burn with my sister and friends or stay at home and build my tiny house. Can you give questions that help figuring out what I want/ what is good for me right now?

Here’s what I’ve got so far

Reasons to go
– I planned this as the one thing that I will definitely do to not get stuck in building all year
– the group of people is lovely and caring
– some of the principles of a burn are self expression, consent and self-reliance. That means I can be exactly how/ who I want to be, everyone is on board with me withdrawing consent at any time and everyone is happy if I care for myself and voice my needs. That’s actually really calming for my autistic mind.
– there are loads of interesting things to do to keep my mind entertained

Reasons not to go
– I feel physically exhausted every day and the week off work I just had didn’t help at all (despite a spa day, getting to bed early and no alarm clock the whole week). A burn is like a festival, so we’re camping, there’s noise at night, I get to bed late.
– I have a whole day of travel by train to get there and to get back afterwards, which in itself already feels exhausting when I think of it
– losing a whole week in building worries me a lot
– I also need to move my current house (big trailer) until the end of July and organising that takes a lot of mental energy
– I have a weekend away planned in August, maybe that’s a better getaway time point (but it’s also quite far ahead)

So, in a nutshell: I’m already physically tired by the thought of going there, but I also know that being there puts me into a really nice mental space, inspires me and gives me energy on that level.

I would like to be kind to myself, but I don’t know what the kind/ caring thing to do would be.

 

Answer:

 

These are some great lists that have clear awareness of what needs and desires you have that you want to meet.

Let’s boil it down. In a world where there was ZERO chance that you could make the wrong decision by any standard, what would you choose to do? What is standing in between where you are right now and making that choice?

Let yourself lean into your desire. Trust your gut (it is your second brain), and the belief that you have your answer inside of you already.