Ttc

I have been struggling with the decision about whether to start trying to conceive again after a miscarriage 3 years ago. All of the workshop things are helping me to stop avoiding the decision and if I had to take no action my decision is yes I already know I want this. But I’m 39 and terrified I won’t be able to have a healthy pregnancy and birth and I’m so stuck as I’ve only just realised this is something I do want. My husband and I have always been ambivalent about whether we want to have children, we only met 5 years ago and I’m scared we will regret it or not be able to cope but also scared I’m running out of time for it to be a choice as I think I may be entering perimenopause. Its a lot whizzing around in my brain

 

 

Answer:

Congratulations on listening to you and knowing what you want. That’s a big step to celebrate! What gets big and scary is all the unknowns that you feel like you can’t control. Your brain will offer you all the reasons not to try. It’s just doing it’s job. But you don’t have to listen to it. Stay present. What is the next step you need to take if you want to start trying again? Create an intentional model that will help you get that result and it can be very helpful to put a completion date on it. So if you need to talk to your husband first, give yourself a deadline. Once you’ve had that conversation, you’ll know what your next step is and so on. In this way it’s not so overwhelming.

Something that can be really helpful is to close your eyes, place one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly. Allow yourself to feel love for this potential future person you want to bring into your family. That love is powerful. When the fear comes up, remind yourself of that love.

We are right here with you each step of the way. Use the community and AAC as much as you want.