Unconscious goals

I’ve noticed I’ll set myself a goal and what I’ll do is something quite different. The current example is a DIY task I’ve been putting off for months. The block is that I think I won’t be happy with the outcome. I had a bit of a breakthrough this time with thought work by thinking, what if I’m really happy with the outcome? What if the outcome sparks joy everytime I see it or think of it?
However, I still haven’t got on with it. I’ve started it, then something came up and got in the way. I know I will eventually do it, but meanwhile what subconsciously became urgent was to start dating again and I instantly sorted that out and am arranging a time to meet with someone now.
What do you think? Does it matter that “my goal” is not the thing I do first?
My thinking is that provided I refocus on my goal to build self-trust on deciding and delivering, it doesn’t matter what else I do along the way.

Answer:

Sometimes with goals we don’t change the goal, we change the goal posts. Why did you choose the DIY task in the first place? In what ways does building self-trust on deciding and delivering have everything to do with dating? Pursuing goals isn’t about getting to the end all the time – it’s about building self-awareness about yourself and your processes. You’ve already said you’ve had some big insights. What else are you learning about yourself in this iteration of pursuing a goal? Be kind and loving with yourself as you investigate more.