Uplevelling – Feeling like a failure – Part 3

Thanks. I wrote down all the thoughts that shame is telling me and reading them back I can see how afraid that part of me is. Like I’m trying to shame myself into staying small to keep myself safe.

So the conclusion I’ve come to is experiencing failure is good. This shows I am pushing myself but over identifying with being a failure/operating from this place is not good.

I want to think of myself instead as being in my growth zone/pushing the realm of what I think is possible for myself.

So now I’m trying to think of what my next steps are…I’m thinking to continue to put my work out there but maybe finding different ways I can do this. Rather than just submitting to competitions which feels a bit like waiting around for permission maybe making more opportunities for myself in other ways?

Answer:

Yes! The zone of growth sounds like a perfect description of where you are. Such good awareness.

Let’s explore what being in the zone of growth means to you – seeing failure as a good thing, and a chance to try something different are two things you’ve mentioned here. What can you expect to feel? What does being in a zone of growth give you liberty to try? How can you come back to your safe zone when you need to reset or exquisitely care for yourself?