Uplevelling my self concept – part 2

Thanks for the coaching so far.

The question about whether there’s another area of my life where I feel I’ve evolved brought up two examples. First in dancing (my main hobby) I have become someone who takes leadership within the group by ‘calling’ the dances, so others know what is coming next, and also by supporting with teaching new members. When I first started doing this I remember being self conscious of my voice sounding shrill, and doing thoughtwork around it, although I don’t remember the exact thoughts which shifted me to where I am now.
The other example is very current, as I have become someone who is very clearly able to ask my partner for the support I need.
Both these examples have an external factor. The first, another member of the dance group suggested that I may like to try ‘calling’, which gave me the opportunity to start to evolve. The second, we’ve started IVF, which happened to coincide with discovering bees in our chimney, and the fact of IVF taking a greater toll on my body than my partners meant I gave myself permission to ask clearly for what I need like never before.
So, maybe the upgrade in my thinking is around I am someone creates opportunities and gives myself permission to change, rather than attributing changes to external factors. I could have said no to starting to call dances, I could have carried on in my more familiar model of taking on all the problems as mine to fix and not asking for help, but I didn’t, so I did have a role in creating the change in these other situations.
So having been through that thought process, I’m thinking of introducing ‘I am someone who is continually evolving’ to my self concept, and then continuing to work with some of the other thoughts I’ve being using in work, like ‘I can take this step by step’ and ‘I am allowed to ask others for help’. This keeps it simple, which is what I need right now!

Answer:

Owning your decisions is so powerful! No matter what our circumstances are, we create our own reality. You absolutely created the results you’ve gotten so far in dance and in your relationship because of you deciding to show up.  It sounds like you’ve landed somewhere you like in your upleveling goal. Take that energy and let’s go!