Voice Notes and being visible

Thank you for your voice notes, I’ve had a good play around with my thought models and wanted to share.

My word of the year is EASE. I would like send voice notes or other unrevised communication/presentation with ease. I’ve spent time noticing where there is ease in my life, enjoying that feeling, being present. I’ve also really tuned into where I don’t feel ease, the sensations and my actions.

Voice notes (or any communication that puts me on the spot) I would always do, but I wouldn’t feel ease, I’d feel tightness and constriction, heavy feeling of not good enough, heat and I would push it all down so nobody would notice. There would be negative internal dialogue but I’d push that away too. There would be an inner conflict, I’d not be content in myself.

I’ve had shy tendencies since being a child, but with an overriding internal drive to be successful, visible, creative. I’ve pushed through and had a successful career in fashion but with years of inner turmoil, lack of ease, IBS, skin issues. I left that industry a year ago. In my life generally I am at ease, I’ve spent years working on my health and I’m in a great place now. TFC has really helped, I understand my nervous system and my thoughts for the most part. I am in a career shift, I’m in the early stages of my new wellness business. I have a full toolkit of self care methods that work for me, but I’d like to support my mindset, my thoughts.

The model –

R. Sending voice notes, presenting and being visible in my business with ease, in flow and feeling good.
A. Recognise moments where I get heightened, be kind, be kind even to the thoughts that want to push it down, regulate and anchor my nervous system, breathe, let it pass.
A. Be in connection with my inner thoughts and feel comfortable with what I’m doing.
A. Spend enough time in my life where I’m at ease so the state flows naturally – yoga with friends, qi gong, self care, with the family, socialising so communication is natural
F. Content
C. Voice notes

I’ve sent numerous voice notes this week to friends who have loved it and found it amusing which is fun.

Answer:

It sounds like you have come a long way in terms of knowing how to support yourself and understanding what role your nervous system plays in your mental and physical health. We’re so excited about this next step for you. Some thoughts I hear about doing direct voice notes, or on the spot communications, and those are 1) I am not good enough, and 2) whatever the negative internal dialogue was saying. What I notice in what I am assuming is your intentional model is that there is no clear T line. What thought or thoughts do you think you would have if you felt content about voice notes? Try and connect your R and your T as best you can and let us know what you discover about creating or uncovering this thought.