Wanting to feel desirable

Hi,
I’ve noticed recently that I haven’t been feeling desirable – it was a big theme last year. To do with work being my big priority and feeling quite exposed & sensitive to rejection while going freelance. This was compounded by being rejected by several people I dated. And by gaining some weight alongside all of this.
This year I’d really love to lean into desiring myself, including how I look and my body. And to treat myself as if I was dating myself exquisitely.
A relationship I had a while back was with someone who made me feel like a goddess… a word he used specifically: and I would love to be able to make myself feel like that. But I don’t know if it’s possible / unrealistic to do that for myself?! I felt that he put me on a pedestal, so I’m not even sure if goddess is what I’m aiming for – something more realistic maybe?!
Do you have any tips on practicing self-desire? I’m single and would like to foster this in myself without it being dependant on external validation.
Thank you

 

Answer:

 

This is such a fun exercise!

When you think of someone who desires themselves, what qualities do they possess? How do they think of themselves? What would you want to adopt? Let’s get a little clear on what you’re striving for means. Sexy? Sensual? Interesting? Intriguing? Mysterious? What do you want to capitalize on?