Wedding thought work

Hi, I’d like some coaching around my thought work about my wedding next week.
I’m trying not to jump into my IM and see what’s going on in these UM first.
Thanks for your help

C: our wedding next week
T: we haven’t done enough to prepare
F: panic
A: get hyper focused on small details, go over plans in my mind, get grumpy with my partner
R: I fine the planning we have to do exhausting and never ending

C: our wedding next week
T: people won’t enjoy themselves because it’s impossible to cater for everyone’s tastes (food, music, drink etc)
F: needy
A: imagine all of the thoughts people will have about the things they don’t like
R: I don’t enjoy imagining my wedding

C: our wedding next week
T: we should be having a more low key wedding
F: embarrassed
A: go back over the different stages of the planning process
R: I don’t trust my decisions

Answer:

First of all – congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! Secondly, let’s dive in…

What if these thoughts actually don’t need to be examined more and what’s going on is this: your brain really is making up things that simply are not true (or at least just not helpful) because defaulting to a negative brain space is easier for all humans to do? If that’s the case, you can make a decision here and now to decide that you can be okay with not pleasing everyone, and with having an imperfect and extravagant wedding. What is standing in your way and what’s your plan for walking around, over or through that obstacle? At the end of the day, the purpose of a wedding is to get married…then the celebration happens. All you need to have in order to celebrate is a good-feeling thought. If you have time, check out the Creating Safety or the Doing Less webinars in the Cycle Toolkit tab and the Bonuses tab respectively. You’ve got this and we’ve got you.

P.S. Let us know how the celebration goes in the Facebook community – we’re looking forward to hearing about it!