Weight

I am feeling low today, it’s day 21.

Unintentional Model

C: My Weight
T: I am fat/overweight but I love my body so I’m not motivated to change it, am I unhealthy?, I don’t prioritise movement and/or movement makes me exhausted, this is not about how I look, my concern is my health, do I eat too much?, I struggle with low energy
F: Annoyed, Tired, Defeated, Struggle, Low mood
S: Tight jaw, heavy heart, low energy, teary
A: Try improvements i.e eat less (within my IBS and PMDD considerations), move more but struggle consistently with my energy levels – then I move less, I am under investigation with my doctor for the last 10yrs regarding how I feel, they tell me ’nothing is wrong’ and offer anti-depressants which I do not wish to take,
R: My weight and shape vary, my feeling of health seems to deteriorate, No matter what I do it doesn’t improve in the long run as I have not found something that works for me yet

 

 

Answer:

 

First thing is first. We always encourage our members to simplify their models. Do one model per thought, and keep questions out of the T line (they just lead to confusion or overwhelm in the F line – neither of which are helpful or useful emotions!). Similarly, keep your F line simple – one word per model. For example…

C: My Weight
T: I’m not motivated to change my body
F: How does this thought make you feel?
S: Where do sensations associated with this feeling show up in your body?
A:What do you do when you feel this way and think this thought?
R: I would guess that you don’t change your body or your relationship to it…but it all depends on what your A line is. What do you come up with?

Let’s say that you could step outside of yourself for a minute while you’re on day 21, and having these thoughts about your weight/body and just observe. What do you see when you observe yourself in this space? When you see that, is there anything you feel called to give or offer to yourself? If you were to invite Love in to meet you in this model, what would happen?