What’s my real goal?

Hi, I realise more and more that most of my goals or even responses to Maisie’s coaching are all on what I would call a ‘businessy’ level. I do this a lot. If you ask me what’s going on in my life, I’ll talk about work first (not necessarily negatively but it’s always work). If you asked me to recall my biggest achievements, it’ll be work. I am playing catch-up with the content here, so I have only just finished the Spring workshop and watched the model workshop. I would like to start massive action next but now I am massively questioning my goal. My goal originally was to feel less stress and overwhelmed, which in my mind was linked to work tasks. Here was my intentional model (FYI: feel very wobbly how to do this):
G: To have less stress in my life
T: This is not hard to do
F: Relaxed
A: Get external help, specifically a VA and accountant; schedule my work day upfront; enable Deep Work (Cal Newport = working in 90-minute blocks of solitude really works for me; I am not achieving this at all at the mo’); regular yoga practice and sauna 1 x a week (this helps me physically and mentally a lot)
R: I am not stressed

I am realising that my goal may be straight up: To be happy. I think I am using work and the overwhelm to deflect that the feeling is deeper but that has thrown my model up in the air and I am now lost what, if any of my rocks are relevant. I do believe however that my unhappiness is being driven by feeling over-worked and under-pressure but I don’t want to quit and it’s not because I don’t like my work, I just feel out of control.

Here’s my second attempt at an intentional model:
C: I am running two businesses on my own
T: This doesn’t have to be hard
F: Happy at the helm and in the thick of it
A: Get help; schedule deep work; make time for yoga and sauna 1 x per week for self-care
R: I am happy

My three rocks seem to be my actions!
1. Have help
2. Deep work
3. Regular yoga and sauna 1 x per week

 

Answer:

Thank you for giving us your models to work with. Nice job with them, and we love it when you show up wobbly! That is when the good work gets done. Let’s take a look at your second model. Something to keep in mind is that the T line and the R line are very directly connected…with the model you have here, I’d actually guess that the R line would look more like this: I find ways to create more ease in my businesses.

What does happy mean to you? What result would you see/feel/experience if you were living in your definition of happy? What would you have to be doing in order to see that result? How would you be feeling? What would you think that would create that feeling? Once you have this model created, come on back with what comes up about your rocks. We’d love to know if or how this changes for you.