When Keeping promises becomes hard

Dear coaches, I`ve realised recently that I struggle with keeping promises that I`ve made during my summer and autumn – times when I`m in abundance. It is particularly hard to keep them during my PMS, and I have these recurring thoughts that “people are using me; wanting only to take advantage of me; wanting to meet me only for me to give”. This comes from the thought error (or is it) that I am the type of person who gives too much and people (especially new ones) get used to that and then I feel used.

Could you help with untangling this logic and maybe a couple of tips on how to prevent such situations?

Thank you so much in advance 🙂

 

Answer:

Have you done a thought download about this? We would encourage you to do so, and if you have, take some of your thoughts and put them each into models.  You can also start from your emotion if that is very prominent, and see what is happening.

C:I told friend I’d do X

T:

F: used

S:

A:

R:?

There is a lot of power in untangling our thoughts before we try to change them. Sometimes it’s not even necessary. As for what to do, a thought I love is: all I need to be is the me-est me that I can be.  You commit to things in summer and spring and don’t want to do it in autumn…so what? What if this is not a problem at all? What if you embraced this part of you?