worrying about how others perceive me

Hi,

I’ve noticed I spend a lot of energy, particularly in the last half of my cycle going over my social interactions with people. Mostly related to work that is. It is as if my brain is trying to make sure I didn’t screw up, said something wrong, was misunderstood, accidentally offended someone, was being too much or too little or unaware. The list goes on. It is exhausting and I would love to just be me, and not worry so much wether or not people like that or not.
I often have night terrors about this, as though my subconscious is worried about me, and wants me to be hyper aware all the time. I would love some coaching on how I can start tackling this issue.

Answer:

The interesting thing to recognize is that you are being you right now, it’s just a part of you that you’re learning to reprogram, and the fact that you get to do that is amazing! If the result you’d like to create for yourself in the future is to just be you and not worry whether people like that or not, let’s examine what you have to do to make that happen. What actions would create that result for you? What feeling would you have to feel to take those actions? What would you have to think about yourself or your ability to be yourself in the second half of your cycle (or at all, whatever is more accurate) to do that? When you see this written down, what thoughts come up for you? Come back to us with what you’d like or need more coaching on when you’re ready with a follow up submission titled “Worrying about others pt. 2”.